5.04.2015

The Writer Mama/Papa Blog Hop 2015!

Welp, I'm late to the party, but in true form it's because my daughter didn't want to go to school this morning, setting my schedule back a few hours(see how I linked that in?!)...

How DO us writer mamas and papas find time/space/energy to write a novel (or two...or five...)? Because, let's face it, I don't know anyone who has the luxury of owning their own office space, let alone a separate room in their home called an 'office' where they can, oh I don't know, shut the door? Maybe close the rest of the world out and sit in lovely silence with their laptop (ahh...that's the dream!).


So we juggle. Usually while tossing snacks and toys to the natives like feeding ducks at a pond.

My kids are older now, but I started writing when they were two and four. I quickly learned, that for my creative process to be at all productive, I couldn't have my kids around. I needed to give my stories 100% of my attention, but my girls also demanded as much (if not more) and the numbers just didn't add up. Thank goodness for my supportive and patient husband, because for a good couple of years I spent every Saturday and Sunday (hours upon hours upon hours) at my local coffee shop. So much I became a sort of permanent fixture, battled a lawyer over a popular table (what, he started it!), and am FB friends with several of the baristas who worked there at that time. (Wow, that could be its own novel!)

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As the raggamuffins have gotten older they've become more independent, and started school, and my writing methods have morphed. I still can't create unless alone or in my own space. I can edit and often get A LOT done during playdates or if my kids are busy reading or doing art or are outside. But the special, magical creating time must happen while they're at school (because my brain shuts down around 8 PM, so after they're in bed is no good). Which means I have to prioritize myself because it's hard to be at home and commit to working without getting sucked up in day to day demands like dishes or, laundry, or, ahem, Facebook.

At what age (if ever) will I let my kids read my books? My books are YA, but usually upper YA and pretty dark, so it depends on the story. The Castaways would be the first one I'd let them read and I'd say my 11-year-old could handle it. My 9-year-old wouldn't be at all interested. ;) Mostly, I hope that by witnessing me following my dreams and working toward an unconventional career they are inspired to dream big and work hard for what they're truly passionate over.

Mostly, nothing stays constant in this crazy life. I'm sure my writing routine will be completely different in another few years. Maybe I'll even have an office. Le sigh.

This writing gig is forever evolving. And I love it so.

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Thanks to Sharon Bayliss for setting up this super fun blog hop!!! There's still time to join in, so head over to Sharon's blog to sign up! Writer Mama/Papa Blog Hop 2015

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9 comments:

  1. I'm able to write with distractions, but it's still heavenly when I get an hour or two of quiet. I have been known to use television and video games to my advantage. And not a single child has grown up to be a serial killer. Yet.

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    1. Lol! Oh yeah, you gotta do what you gotta do. I've definitely been known to casually suggest/hint/encourage, "Hey, you guys haven't played Play Station in a while..." :p

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  2. I have to write with distractions but I'm able to write day and night because I'm a night owl. hopefully once law schools done it'll be easier to write.

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    1. See, you're lucky. I always *think* I can do it and in the afternoon will by like, "I'll just stay up late and finish this..." But once the time for 'this' comes around I'm all...meh...Parks and Rec reruns and chocolate...

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  3. I agree, support is key. My husband has always allowed me my writing time when I needed it, and my mom chips in too. I am especially humbled and amazed by the single moms managing to write and work and everything else!

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    1. Totally Sharon (and I have to apologize--I misspelled your last name in my original post!). Single parents are super heros. No doubt about it.

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  4. I'm with you, Jessika, unless the muse is being louder than the kid (which, is pretty rare) I can't write with my kiddo around. But I only have one. I write when he's asleep and during lunch at work. But the coffee shop idea is APPEALING (probably because I'm a coffee addict). I LOVE the idea that you beat out the lawyer for the table. HA!

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  5. I guess the writer will write no matter the 'distractions' around...

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  6. I'm holding out hope for the day when I am only a writer and can give up the day job. I like to think I'll write so much during the school day! (Don't tell me that I'm dreaming; I like this dream).

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